Sunday, April 24, 2011

Boot camp for effeminate boys

Quite frankly, I think it is crap.


The things I've been reading make me sick. Being an effeminate boy is not an 'issue'. The only issue is them getting all sorts of crap for being who they are, and this boot camp certainly won't be helping their situation. Maybe it's because I'm from the younger generation, but I'm a firm believer of letting people be who they want to be. I think deviating from the norm isn't necessarily a bad thing; in fact, I actually admire people with the guts to do that. So if these boys have worked up the courage to be themselves before the judgemental eyes of society, who are we to stop them?

(From Vogons.)

Another thing I can't stand is how these boys are having a label slapped on them just like that. Every single one of them who went for the camp will now probably be known as 'the guy who went for the orang lembut (softy) boot camp'. And honestly, who would want that? There are so many other aspects and qualities to these boys, but this is the one thing that will stand out in people's minds. That's just unfair. (Don't you give me that stuff about life in general being unfair -- I will punch you in the face.)

I have quite a few effeminate guy friends, and I think every one of them is awesome. They're funny, snarky, entertaining, and just the right amount of bitchy; also, they're way more sensitive than other guys and give some of the best advice ever. I think every girl out there should have a BGF (best gay friend), because they're some of the best people you will ever meet. There really is nothing wrong with being an effeminate guy. In fact, effeminate guys are actually pretty damn awesome.

'Feminine traits which could hamper their future? I'd say
Adam Lambert's doing pretty well. Wouldn't you?

If, in your eyes, being an effeminate boy is bad, trust me, there's a lot 'worse'. There are transsexuals and gays/lesbians and bisexuals and, hell, genderqueer people. I myself am trying to wrap my head around the concept of being genderqueer, but realised some time ago that the simplest thing to do is to accept people for who they are and not question them if they're sure.

It's not our place to judge, and it certainly isn't our place to make them conform. If that's how they are, that's just how they are. Don't be hatin' on the effeminate boys -- they're human, just like the other 6.9 billion of us.

P.S. Ironically, it looks like the boot camp failed. The boys who went enjoyed making friends with like-minded peers and were taught to be 'more confident'. That's the spirit!

P.P.S. Also, read this. It's Bob's take on the whole boot camp thing, and I do believe it's well worth your time.

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