(From MSN Malaysia.)
Today in CF, Mr. Reuben talked about boy-girl relationships, sharing some past experiences of his at the same time. What I liked was that it wasn't preachy in the least -- it was more of a suggestion of how to look at things and what to (and not to) do.These are some points I brought back from the talk (not all of which I agree with) :
- Dating around is a building ground for divorce. (The reason for this being that if someone can so easily 'let go' of so many relationships, they could well do the same in a marriage.)
- Dating someone of a different religion gets sticky.
- Keep yourself pure for your future partner.
- Aim to make lifelong commitments. (At least, I think that was his point.)
- Put God before potential girlfriends/boyfriends.
It always bugs me when people tell me to 'keep myself pure for my future husband'. What if you'd worked all your life to do just that, only to find that the person you were about to marry hadn't bothered? Wouldn't you be left feeling like you'd gotten a pretty raw deal? Also, in this day and age, what does it really mean to be pure? Virginal, certainly, but then you hear about people who had never been kissed till they got married and you start to wonder. At least, I start to wonder.
In my opinion (though I speak from no experience at all), it's kind of necessary to date around. Marrying the first person you date would probably be a mistake, since you don't know what else is out there. Of course, this doesn't mean I'm in support of 'playboys' and 'playgirls' who change girlfriends/boyfriends more often than they change their clothes -- I'm just saying I think most people don't actually date and then marry only one person. And at this age, who really thinks about making lifelong commitments? That's scary stuff, probably for people way beyond our age!
I agree with the rest of Mr. Reuben's points, though. His talk certainly gave me food for thought; I've been mulling things over in my head for a good few hours now. Also, I think I'm a bit more sure of where I stand in regards to this whole relationship thing.
What about you? What do you think?